How to Keep the Spark Alive by Creating More Novelty In Your Relationship July 14, 2020 144 0 0 As I stated in my post about Intimacy Throughout The Family Life Cycle, one of the most popular questions I get as a marriage & family therapist is how to keep the spark alive. And then I said that there were lots of reasons your spark may begin to sputter. For example, lots of couples
26 Life Lessons from a Therapist June 28, 2020 123 0 0 Today is my 26th birthday! In honor of it, I wanted to share 26 of the life lessons that I’ve been lucky enough to gather thus far, especially those that came out of COVID-19. I imagine that most of you will have to learn these lessons the hard way, as I did, but I hope
Keep the Spark Alive Throughout the Family Life Cycle May 22, 2020 165 1 0 One of the most popular questions I get from couples is how to keep that ever-elusive spark alive. There are a lot of reasons your spark may begin to sputter– one of them is a lack of novelty, which I talk about in the linked post there. But today we’ll be talking about the challenges
Spill The Tea in Therapy: Rae & Borderline Personality Disorder October 7, 2019 210 0 0 Welcome to the Spill The Tea in Therapy Series I have some HOT TEA to share today: it’s the first day of our new stigma-busting guest post series! On select #MentalHealthMondays there will be a new post written by a reader about their experience with mental health– today it’s Rae and her experience with Borderline
What’s In My Therapy Library- Sexuality and Relationship Education September 4, 2019 273 0 1 Esther Perel says that to improve sex education in the US, we need to expand our definition of what it is. She asserts that we should be looking at it as “Sexuality and Relationship Education” which I believe in wholeheartedly. And it’s not just because it came out of Esther Perel’s mouth. I promise. Sexuality
What’s In My Therapy Library: General Self-Help Book Edition August 15, 2019 279 0 1 A thorough knowledge of psychology does not a good self-help book make. What? Are you surprised to hear that from the therapist who still brags about her college GPA four years postgrad? Well, lucky for you guys, my love for high-quality narrative and desire to ultimately be actually helpful trump my thirst for facts. There
What is Narrative Therapy? June 25, 2019 247 0 1 On my homepage, you may have noticed how I said I dabble in Narrative Therapy. What the heck is that?! How do you know if it would be helpful for you as a client in therapy? If you’re studying to become a therapist, how do you know if it’s the right theoretical orientation for you?
Creative Ways to Show Love Based on Your Love Language June 21, 2019 443 11 2 Are you and your partner arguing so much that it feels like you’re not even speaking the same language? Well, what if I told you that might actually be the problem? In my work with couples, this actually comes up a lot. Not speaking the same love languages is of the many ways communication is
Quotes to Spark Nostalgia June 17, 2019 1785 2 1 A little while ago, I came across a Bustle article about the ways nostalgia changes your brain. “Changes” was kind of clickbaity– a better word would just be “effects.” But the content of the article was still really interesting! One of my favorite facts was that children as young as seven can experience nostalgia. That
What is Systems Theory? June 14, 2019 280 0 1 I gotta tell ya, writing about theory makes my brain go fuzzy. It must be a side effect of grad school. I am so appreciative of the researchers that tease out behavior and collect it into neat little packages like systems theory, but I hate writing about it. Still, of course, theory is very important
What’s In My Therapy Library: Adulting Edition June 14, 2019 259 0 0 Some of you may know this already, but I used to run a lifestyle blog called Uninspired. My goal was to help twenty-something women navigate the complicated world of young adulthood– otherwise known as “adulting”. It’s a really, really difficult time, and there are a lot of reasons for that. One of them is that
What’s In My Therapy Library: Fiction Edition May 22, 2019 261 0 1 Since I became something of an academic, I’ve taken to writing notes on every piece of literature I come across. It began, of course, with academic articles, but then I realized that what helped me digest academic articles would of course help me digest other writings. Now I underline things I like and scribble opinions
